Could someone please explain the whole Jewish mom thing to me?
I have a friend who has dated an awesome Jewish guy for over a year. They get along great and treat each other well. There is plenty of romance and it is a pleasure to watch them together. They seem like a perfect couple always having fun. Both are medical professionals. She is a second-generation Asian American with her Masters degree from the University of Michigan and can speak several languages fluently. She is a super smart Certified Registered Nurse Anesthetist earning 6 figure income. I work in the same hospital where she is very well respected. The girl is healthy, loving, cheerful, and smokin'-hot gorgeous! In fact, she has often been called an "Asian trophy girlfriend" by people we know, even though she is humble about it. She is full of love, very family oriented, wants kids, and would probably make a great mom. I can't imagine why anyone would not want her as a daughter-in-law. When her boyfriend"s Jewish mom talks to her son, she always says my friend is amazing. However, when she is alone with my friend, she will say mean and hurtful things like, "My son is only having a fling and could not possibly be serious about an Asian girlfriend" and "he should not waste his life and future" and that she would never allow her son to marry a non-Jewish girl and would do everything to destroy the marriage. She also makes a lot of snide and hurtful remarks whenever her son is not around. When her son asks about it, she denies any animosity and calls my friend her precious little China doll. Her son seems completely duped his two-faced mother. This has been going one for some time and my friend is heart broken about it. She has tried everything to make the evil witch like her. I know Jewish moms are supposed to be protective of their sons but WTF? Why is this woman acting like this? What's her motive. Please explain the Jewish mom thing because we don't know how it works. .
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Some parents (and not just Jewish ones) want their children to marry another Jewish woman/man. Basically racism with a religious flair. I would advise the girlfriend to either suffer in silence OR do something about it. They do make recorders that you can get at most electronic stores. Devious, I know but if his mom is pulling the wool over her son's eyes then playing fair and ignoring her is not likely to work. ---and just because the son hasn't said anything to his gf doesn't mean when his mom and him are alone she isn't trying to re-direct his interests.
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Kids are only considered Jewish if the mother is Jewish. Your friend being of East Asian descent can't produce a Jewish baby. This bothers his mother. Also Jewish people are very ethnocentric, regardless if they are secular or not. Tough luck, but your friend is a China doll "Goy fling" that is being used until its time for him to settle with a Jewish girl. His mom is telling the truth.
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