I need serious marital advice quick. I have nobody I can tell without it opening a huge can of worms?
My instinct is to run home to mom but I didn't tell her what happened because I know she will freak out and insist me and my toddler come to her house. I have been visiting my mom a hundred miles away for 4 days with my son and I have a husband who I have been married to for 11 years. We have one 2 year old. My son is my world. I am a stay at home mom and go to nursing school 3 days a week, other than that I am at home. I am sorry this is long but this seems like a place I can ask. My husband has too many friends. They come and go as they please throughout my home, I feed at least one of them a night, and currently one is staying in our guest room and my husband just told me that the law is looking for him and he has nowhere to go, so my husband feeling sorry for him has let him stay the past two months. I really don't have a problem with him and the law is looking for him apparently for having a gun and he is a felon from stealing a car when he was 20 back in 1982 and felons can't have guns. That is not even the problem although I told my husband he had to go because I am not comfortable having a wanted freaking fugitive in my home. While I was gone my husband let a few people stay over. Now keep in mind we have been married over a decade. I know my husband drinks and occasionally smokes weed. I personally have never done anything stronger than tylenol and have never actually seen him smoke it because I do not approve of it and it is a sore subject with us. He is open about it so he doesn't feel the need to lie. Tonight when I came home the house was a total disaster. I was cleaning stuff up and we have a tv stand in our living area and my son plays in it by putting his toys in there and such and he opened it and grabbed one of my priceless china plates my grandma gave me and it had white powder on it. I was stunned as to why it was there or what it could be until I saw it shining and I knew it couldn't be good. I tasted it and it tasted like battery acid or something. My mind went immediately to cocaine. The guy who lives with us was outside and I called him in, since my husband hadn't got home yet and asked him what it was and he said "hon, all I can tell you is that it is no good. I promise it isn't mine, but I am not lying to you that it aint good" I believe it wasn't his, I could tell by the look on his face. My problem is that my kid had access to freaking hard core drugs. I have never been so sick in my life. I met my husband on the road with another of his friends and told him I was moving out and couldn't live like this anymore. I mean you don't know how low you can feel until you see your two year old holding a plate with cocaine on it. I am so done. I love my husband dearly, but I feel he is not doing his job protecting us. He let this happen and I am lost. What should I do?
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You are totally wrong and way off base ! If it tasted like solvent it was methamphetamine, coke tastes good.
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Isn't cocaine usually done on mirrors or pieces of glass....??? If it is cocaine, I would say...you can't change who your husband is friends with. HOWEVER, he can't let certain friends hang out at the house. You are going to have to lay down the law...His friends can hang out, but not live in your house. Marriage counseling, divorce, police...the only other thing I can think of. Take care ^__^
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Get out. This is BS. He is treating you like his maid, not his wife. And the fact that there are drugs in the home, child protection WILL remove the child if you don't leave and create a safe place for you and your child. You can still love your husband, but obviously he doesn't respect you, if he did he wouldn't be behaving so irresponsible. And love does not mean this person is healthy for you. But I think the part for me is that you enable all of his behaviours, ie. you cleaned up the house he destroyed, rather than having him do it with his little friend. Seriously, get out, go stay with a friend or your mom, mom doesn't need to know all the details, just that you need to come stay because your marriage is over, is a long story and you can't get into the details. I am a firm believer of listening to your gut, your gut said "I AM SO DONE". That's it.
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Hi Tanya, You are lucky that I came online just now and I read your question. I know what would be your situation but let me tell you very straight. Keeping a fugitive in home and hiding this information is a big crime and I believe you both (your husband & you) are doing since long. This stranger guy can be dangerous and when time will permit, he can use his gun. Also he is involved in drugs..This is really scary. My suggestion would be - Call Cops and tell them "There is fugitive staying at our place and we are not aware of his actions. He has gun and looks like, he is involved in drugs too. It seems you husband involved in wrong type of friends and your duty to hold him back doing what I suggested. Dont fear and do it. You are going to do a very noble thing which is good for sociaty and yourself too. Good Luck !!
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i won't know why your husband like his friends so much. Talk to him about drugs, make it a rule that no drugs are allowed into the house. You don't want your son to be overdose with cocaine...if your husband still feel it's ok to keep his matrimonal home a 24-hr open house to all his friends, it may not be safe for you n your son. His friends have to go stay somewhere else, your husband can rent a room for them elesewhere but should not harbour outlaws. You may be implicated. Take a huge allowance from him n move out is the other option n if he keeps letting outlaws into the house, you may seek legal advice to protect your status.
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I'm so sorry angel.. I agree coke (or meth)is as low as it gets. putting up with the other stuff is codependent as it is, and then that? I truly feel sad for you. I feel like you misjudged your husbands character. He misjudged his friends character, I am sure your husband was just trying to be nice, but when it comes to your children, you just don't mess around. Your husband should never have a friend like that and I hope by now he kicked him out and never talks to him again, if he can't do that, or if he sticks up for him, I don't think he was the man you married. Leave for your son's safety, I hope you can turn to your mother because that is the first place I would go. Maybe she will understand you don't want drama, you just want comfort. Mom will give you hugs.
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Your husband is a drug addict,you can not change him,Discuss with him about your feeling,then give him time to change ,If he improves then well & good,otherwise move to your mother!s place .Admiral V K Singh
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If I were you I would get rid of his as fast as I could.If your child would have got that stuff in his mouth he could be dead right now.Why are you even asking what you should do?You should protect your child and get the hell away from the situation.
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I would absolutely, 100% leave temporarily. Go back to your mom's or anywhere you feel comfortable--you don't have to tell anyone what happened exactly, and I would not, I would just say you two got into in b/c the house was trashed or something. B/c if you two work it out you will not want everyone or esp your mom knowing what (almost) happened. What you need to do is SHOW him you mean business and the ONLY way he will take you seriously is if you do what you say and leave. IF he loves you this will scare him crapless and he will be willing to do anything, change anything to get you and his child back. If you stay and bitch NOTHING will change for very long. When you leave I would give it a few days before you even broach the subject of coming back. Make him sweat it out. This is VERY serious and he needs to realize that. When and if you do decide to start talking about going back you need to tell him that you will not allow anyone else staying with you guys for ANY length of time. I mean, he is a grown, married man and father and shouldn't be having friends over every night. That's ridiculous. Esp if they are THESE kinds of friends. Giving him he benefit of the doubt, it MIGHT not have been his coke, it really could have been someone else's--hopefully he would have sense enough to not leave the plate there--but that's really beside the point. The friends, the drugs, the partying the minute you walk out the door, it all needs to stop Hopefully this will be enough to make him realize this on his own and not let it ruin his life. Good luck.
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Ask yourself, whats means more to you. The safety of your son, or your love for your hubby. Get your kid out of there.
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Your responsibility is too your son. Get out of that place now. Don't look back and don't listen to the sweet talk. Time heals all wounds but it can't bring someone back to life.
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if you're out of the house don't even go back, not even for clothes. if the authorities know you are hiding a fugitive and there's drugs involved i'm pretty sure they will arrest all of you, and of course take your child. your son was exposed to danger, drugs and who knows where the gun is. a person is no better than their friends, remember that.
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Monday, November 28, 2011
Monday, November 14, 2011
Osama bin laden plan to send 100,000,000 arab soldiers into jerusalem, israel by 2012
Osama bin laden plan to send 100,000,000 arab soldiers into jerusalem, israel by 2012?
COME, LORD JESUS, ================ WHEN OSAMA BIN LADEN COME TO POWER IN SAUDI ARABIA HE PLAN TO SEND AS MANY AS 100,000,000 ARAB SOLDIERS INTO JERUSALEM, ISRAEL. OSAMA BIN LADEN SHOULD COME TO POWER BEFORE 2012 ON THE EVE OF THE RUSSIAN INVASION OF ISRAEL. THIS MEAN LEADERS GULF COOPERATION CUNCILL WILL HAVE TO LEAVE THEIR COUNTRY WITHIN 3 YEARS FROM NOW. JAPAN GROSS NATIONAL PRODUCT OR GNP IS ABOUT US 5,000,000,000,000 OR US$ 5 TRILLION DOLLARS. ARAB NATIONS GNP IS ABOUT US$ 5 TRILLION. THE GOVERNMENT OF MALAYSIA MUST BE ABLE TO HANDLE ALL THESE US$ 5 TRILLION DOLLARS FROM 22 ARAB NATIONS WITHIN THREE YEARS. ARAB POPULATION IS ABOUT 400,000,000 PEOPLE. 25% OF ARAB POPULATION IS ABOUT 100 MILLION SOLDIERS. IF WE BREAK 400 MILLION ARAB INTO FAMILY MEMBERS THEN THERE IS ABOUT 100 MILLION FATHERS, 100 MILLION MOTHERS, 100 MILLION BOYS AND 100 MILLION GIRLS. HENCE, ABOUT 100 MILLION ARAB FATHERS WILL BE GOING TO JERUSALEM FOR PILGRIMAGE. MUHAMMAD THE LEADER OF ISLAM WENT INTO HEAVEN FROM JERUSALEM, ISRAEL AND ALL 100 MILLION ARAB FATHERS WANT TO DO THE SAME. THEY WILL ALL GO TO JERUSALEM BY LAND, SEA, AIR AND UNDERGROUD. WE MUST REMEMBER THAT RUSSIA IS PLANNING TO SEND 40 MILION SOLDIERS, IRAN WILL SEND 20 MILLION SOLDIERS AND AFRO-AFRICAN WILL BE SENDING ABOUT 120 MILLION SOLDIERS INTO JERUSALEM, ISRAEL. AFRICAN HAS ABOUT 1,000,000,000 PEOPLE AND ABOUT 200 MILLION ARABS LIVE IN NORTH AFRICA WHILE 600 MILLION AFRO-AFRICAN LIVE IN WESTERN, CENTRAL, EASTERN AND SOUTHERN AFRICA. THERE ARE ABOUT 200 MILLION ARABS IN ASIA. HENCE, 20% OR 25% OF 600 MILLION AFRO-AFRICAN IS ABOUT 120 MILLION SOLDIERS. THE TOTAL WORLD POPULATION IS ABOUT 7,000,000,000 TO 8,000,000,000 PEOPLE AS WE REACH 2020 AD. HENCE, FOR EASY MATHS THERE ARE 2 BILLION FATHERS, 2 BILLION MOTHERS, 2 BILLION BOYS AND 2 BILLION GIRLS IN THE WORLD. WE MUST REMEMBER THAT THERE ARE 4 PARTS TO THE THIRD WORLD WAR NAMELY, PRESIDENT SADDAM HUSSIEN, PRESIDENT MIKHAIL GORBACHEV, PRESIDENT LI PENG AND EMPEROR JUAN CARLOS. ARAB EMPIRE LED BY PRESIDENT SADDAM PLAN TO INVADE JERUSALEM, ISRAEL BUT LOST IN 1991 AND 2001 BECAUSE ARAB NATIONS WERE DIVIDED BETWEEN PRO AMERICA BLOC, PRO EUROPEAN BLOC, PRO RUSSIA BLOC AND PRO THIRD WORLD BLOC?. RUSSIAN EMPIRE PLAN TO INVADE JERUSALEM, ISRAEL WITH 40,000,000 SOLDIERS IN 2012 AD. CHINESE EMPIRE PLAN TO INVADE JERUSALEM, ISRAEL WITH 200,000,000 SOLDIERS. EUROPEAN EMPIRE PLAN TO INVADE JERUSALEM, ISRAEL WITH 60,000,000 SOLDIERS. ANYWAY DURING THE RUSSIAN INVASION OF JERUSALEM, ISRAEL THERE COULD BE ABOUT 500,000,000 SOLDIERS FROM MANY NATIONS? AFTER RUSSIAN DEFEAT THE EUROPEAN NATIONS, CHINA AND OTHER NATIONS WILL SEND ANOTHER 500,000,000 SOLDIERS TO JERUSALEM, ISRAEL FOR THE LAST PART OF THE THIRD WORLD WAR. IT IS FUNNY THAT ABOUT 2 BILLION FATHERS PLAN TO VISIT JERUSALEM FOR THE LAST TIME BEFORE LORD JESUS CHRIST THE SON OF THE LIVING GOD RETURN TO JERUSALEM IN 2020 AD. WHEN LORD JESUS RETURN TO HIS NEW TEMPLE IN JERUSALEM, ISRAEL THEN ALL UNCLEAN PEOPLE CANNOT ENTER THE HOLY CITY AS MENTIONED IN THE AMERICAN BIBLE. NOW YOU KNOW WHY ALL THE FATHERS IN THIS WORLD WANT TO VISIT JERUSALEM BY HOOK OR CROOK BEFORE LORD JESUS COME. LOOK LIKE 2 BILLION FATHERS WILL BRING THEIR M16, AK47 AND RAMBO KNIVES TO JERUSALEM, ISRAEL. 20 6 "When you see Jerusalem surrounded by armies, know that its desolation is at hand. 21 Then those in Judea must flee to the mountains. Let those within the city escape from it, and let those in the countryside not enter the city, 22 for these days are the time of punishment when all the scriptures are fulfilled. 23 Woe to pregnant women and nursing mothers in those days, for a terrible calamity will come upon the earth and a wrathful judgment upon this people. 24 They will fall by the edge of the sword and be taken as captives to all the Gentiles; and Jerusalem will be trampled underfoot by the Gentiles until the times of the Gentiles 7 are fulfilled. 25 "There will be signs in the sun, the moon, and the stars, and on earth nations will be in dismay, perplexed by the roaring of the sea and the waves. 26 People will die of fright in anticipation of what is coming upon the world, for the powers of the heavens 8 will be shaken. 27 And then they will see the Son of Man coming in a cloud with power and great glory. (LORD JESUS CHRIST THE SON OF THE LIVING GOD) THE BIBLE SAID THAT ABOUT TWO-THIRD OF THE ISRAELIS WILL DIE WHILE ONE-THIRD ISRAELIS WILL MOVE INTO THE 1,000 YEARS OF PEACE. SO IT LOOK LIKE ABOUT 4,000,000 ISRAELIS WILL DIE WHILE 2,000,000 ISRAELIS WILL MOVE INTO THE 1,000 YEARS OF PEACE. THESE MEAN THAT EVERY YEAR AN EVERAGE ABOUT 100 MILLION SOLDIERS WILL BE IN JERUSALEM, ISRAEL. GOD BLESS ISRRAEL. MR. ROBIN DONALD. KUALA LUMPUR, MALAYSIA. DATE; 18TH, SEPTEMBER, 2010.
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Robin, I'm wondering where did you get this quote from ?? Anyway, Zionists love to hear such news, it gives them more reasons to kill Arab and Palestinian children. This unfortunate situation will be solved when Jews revolt and kick the zionists out of there lives. Bin Laden another A***SS Hole. Hope I answered your question
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We Israelis have fouled many a plan.
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COME, LORD JESUS, ================ WHEN OSAMA BIN LADEN COME TO POWER IN SAUDI ARABIA HE PLAN TO SEND AS MANY AS 100,000,000 ARAB SOLDIERS INTO JERUSALEM, ISRAEL. OSAMA BIN LADEN SHOULD COME TO POWER BEFORE 2012 ON THE EVE OF THE RUSSIAN INVASION OF ISRAEL. THIS MEAN LEADERS GULF COOPERATION CUNCILL WILL HAVE TO LEAVE THEIR COUNTRY WITHIN 3 YEARS FROM NOW. JAPAN GROSS NATIONAL PRODUCT OR GNP IS ABOUT US 5,000,000,000,000 OR US$ 5 TRILLION DOLLARS. ARAB NATIONS GNP IS ABOUT US$ 5 TRILLION. THE GOVERNMENT OF MALAYSIA MUST BE ABLE TO HANDLE ALL THESE US$ 5 TRILLION DOLLARS FROM 22 ARAB NATIONS WITHIN THREE YEARS. ARAB POPULATION IS ABOUT 400,000,000 PEOPLE. 25% OF ARAB POPULATION IS ABOUT 100 MILLION SOLDIERS. IF WE BREAK 400 MILLION ARAB INTO FAMILY MEMBERS THEN THERE IS ABOUT 100 MILLION FATHERS, 100 MILLION MOTHERS, 100 MILLION BOYS AND 100 MILLION GIRLS. HENCE, ABOUT 100 MILLION ARAB FATHERS WILL BE GOING TO JERUSALEM FOR PILGRIMAGE. MUHAMMAD THE LEADER OF ISLAM WENT INTO HEAVEN FROM JERUSALEM, ISRAEL AND ALL 100 MILLION ARAB FATHERS WANT TO DO THE SAME. THEY WILL ALL GO TO JERUSALEM BY LAND, SEA, AIR AND UNDERGROUD. WE MUST REMEMBER THAT RUSSIA IS PLANNING TO SEND 40 MILION SOLDIERS, IRAN WILL SEND 20 MILLION SOLDIERS AND AFRO-AFRICAN WILL BE SENDING ABOUT 120 MILLION SOLDIERS INTO JERUSALEM, ISRAEL. AFRICAN HAS ABOUT 1,000,000,000 PEOPLE AND ABOUT 200 MILLION ARABS LIVE IN NORTH AFRICA WHILE 600 MILLION AFRO-AFRICAN LIVE IN WESTERN, CENTRAL, EASTERN AND SOUTHERN AFRICA. THERE ARE ABOUT 200 MILLION ARABS IN ASIA. HENCE, 20% OR 25% OF 600 MILLION AFRO-AFRICAN IS ABOUT 120 MILLION SOLDIERS. THE TOTAL WORLD POPULATION IS ABOUT 7,000,000,000 TO 8,000,000,000 PEOPLE AS WE REACH 2020 AD. HENCE, FOR EASY MATHS THERE ARE 2 BILLION FATHERS, 2 BILLION MOTHERS, 2 BILLION BOYS AND 2 BILLION GIRLS IN THE WORLD. WE MUST REMEMBER THAT THERE ARE 4 PARTS TO THE THIRD WORLD WAR NAMELY, PRESIDENT SADDAM HUSSIEN, PRESIDENT MIKHAIL GORBACHEV, PRESIDENT LI PENG AND EMPEROR JUAN CARLOS. ARAB EMPIRE LED BY PRESIDENT SADDAM PLAN TO INVADE JERUSALEM, ISRAEL BUT LOST IN 1991 AND 2001 BECAUSE ARAB NATIONS WERE DIVIDED BETWEEN PRO AMERICA BLOC, PRO EUROPEAN BLOC, PRO RUSSIA BLOC AND PRO THIRD WORLD BLOC?. RUSSIAN EMPIRE PLAN TO INVADE JERUSALEM, ISRAEL WITH 40,000,000 SOLDIERS IN 2012 AD. CHINESE EMPIRE PLAN TO INVADE JERUSALEM, ISRAEL WITH 200,000,000 SOLDIERS. EUROPEAN EMPIRE PLAN TO INVADE JERUSALEM, ISRAEL WITH 60,000,000 SOLDIERS. ANYWAY DURING THE RUSSIAN INVASION OF JERUSALEM, ISRAEL THERE COULD BE ABOUT 500,000,000 SOLDIERS FROM MANY NATIONS? AFTER RUSSIAN DEFEAT THE EUROPEAN NATIONS, CHINA AND OTHER NATIONS WILL SEND ANOTHER 500,000,000 SOLDIERS TO JERUSALEM, ISRAEL FOR THE LAST PART OF THE THIRD WORLD WAR. IT IS FUNNY THAT ABOUT 2 BILLION FATHERS PLAN TO VISIT JERUSALEM FOR THE LAST TIME BEFORE LORD JESUS CHRIST THE SON OF THE LIVING GOD RETURN TO JERUSALEM IN 2020 AD. WHEN LORD JESUS RETURN TO HIS NEW TEMPLE IN JERUSALEM, ISRAEL THEN ALL UNCLEAN PEOPLE CANNOT ENTER THE HOLY CITY AS MENTIONED IN THE AMERICAN BIBLE. NOW YOU KNOW WHY ALL THE FATHERS IN THIS WORLD WANT TO VISIT JERUSALEM BY HOOK OR CROOK BEFORE LORD JESUS COME. LOOK LIKE 2 BILLION FATHERS WILL BRING THEIR M16, AK47 AND RAMBO KNIVES TO JERUSALEM, ISRAEL. 20 6 "When you see Jerusalem surrounded by armies, know that its desolation is at hand. 21 Then those in Judea must flee to the mountains. Let those within the city escape from it, and let those in the countryside not enter the city, 22 for these days are the time of punishment when all the scriptures are fulfilled. 23 Woe to pregnant women and nursing mothers in those days, for a terrible calamity will come upon the earth and a wrathful judgment upon this people. 24 They will fall by the edge of the sword and be taken as captives to all the Gentiles; and Jerusalem will be trampled underfoot by the Gentiles until the times of the Gentiles 7 are fulfilled. 25 "There will be signs in the sun, the moon, and the stars, and on earth nations will be in dismay, perplexed by the roaring of the sea and the waves. 26 People will die of fright in anticipation of what is coming upon the world, for the powers of the heavens 8 will be shaken. 27 And then they will see the Son of Man coming in a cloud with power and great glory. (LORD JESUS CHRIST THE SON OF THE LIVING GOD) THE BIBLE SAID THAT ABOUT TWO-THIRD OF THE ISRAELIS WILL DIE WHILE ONE-THIRD ISRAELIS WILL MOVE INTO THE 1,000 YEARS OF PEACE. SO IT LOOK LIKE ABOUT 4,000,000 ISRAELIS WILL DIE WHILE 2,000,000 ISRAELIS WILL MOVE INTO THE 1,000 YEARS OF PEACE. THESE MEAN THAT EVERY YEAR AN EVERAGE ABOUT 100 MILLION SOLDIERS WILL BE IN JERUSALEM, ISRAEL. GOD BLESS ISRRAEL. MR. ROBIN DONALD. KUALA LUMPUR, MALAYSIA. DATE; 18TH, SEPTEMBER, 2010.
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Robin, I'm wondering where did you get this quote from ?? Anyway, Zionists love to hear such news, it gives them more reasons to kill Arab and Palestinian children. This unfortunate situation will be solved when Jews revolt and kick the zionists out of there lives. Bin Laden another A***SS Hole. Hope I answered your question
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We Israelis have fouled many a plan.
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Monday, November 7, 2011
Chinese men advice
Chinese men advice?! :)?
So basically...I'm a Nursing Student and I'm graduating soon...my father takes Dialysis so after class I go with him because he can't go alone....in the dialysis clinic, there's alot of Asians nurses(guys)(Chinese, Koreans, Japanese, and Fillipinos)....there this particular Chinese Guy who I got interested in a few months ago after 2yrs of going to that clinic he is super cute and tall and well fit body:) he didn't look at me before when i started going there with my dad, but lately I've notice without him noticing that he looks at me alot when I'm not looking at him... A couple of days ago I brought a guy friend over in the clinic so he can see my dad and when I came in with him, I noticed that he was looking at me but he had a weird look on his face :-/ we haven't really talk much, but when i look at him he always smile so sweet at me...but I don't want to look at him because there's other people there and might think is weird... I've been ignoring him because I don't want to start any rumors of him or me:( he has noticed that I've been ignoring him...I don't want to ignore him because I really like him but I'm all confused and don't know what to do :( Just 2days ago, he found out from my dad that I speak fluent mandarin and cantonese and when my dad says something of me, he always tends to want to know:) How can I show him I like him without being too despreate? he is a pure Chinese guy...born and raised in china with a cute accent:) he speaks Spanish too;) I'm a mix race of Spanish, Chinese, Korean, and Spain.... and i speak fluent Korean, Mandarin, Cantonese, Spanish, and English of course... I'm a very sweet, fun, loving person who always put everybody else first before myself ^.^ Advice please!!! And not stupid answers or racist please:(
Singles & Dating - 1 Answers
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You should check & make sure whether he already had a girlfriend or not.Because,(I'm not racist,-60% of my friends are chinese) but i think it is normal for chinese guys to date more than 1 girls at the same time.most of my chinese friends do.to them,the will have one real girlfriend that they will want to marry but they will consider other girlfriends as spare-part just for fun & happy hour.This just my view,i'm not racist..btw i also mix>Malay+Arab+chinese+jew
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So basically...I'm a Nursing Student and I'm graduating soon...my father takes Dialysis so after class I go with him because he can't go alone....in the dialysis clinic, there's alot of Asians nurses(guys)(Chinese, Koreans, Japanese, and Fillipinos)....there this particular Chinese Guy who I got interested in a few months ago after 2yrs of going to that clinic he is super cute and tall and well fit body:) he didn't look at me before when i started going there with my dad, but lately I've notice without him noticing that he looks at me alot when I'm not looking at him... A couple of days ago I brought a guy friend over in the clinic so he can see my dad and when I came in with him, I noticed that he was looking at me but he had a weird look on his face :-/ we haven't really talk much, but when i look at him he always smile so sweet at me...but I don't want to look at him because there's other people there and might think is weird... I've been ignoring him because I don't want to start any rumors of him or me:( he has noticed that I've been ignoring him...I don't want to ignore him because I really like him but I'm all confused and don't know what to do :( Just 2days ago, he found out from my dad that I speak fluent mandarin and cantonese and when my dad says something of me, he always tends to want to know:) How can I show him I like him without being too despreate? he is a pure Chinese guy...born and raised in china with a cute accent:) he speaks Spanish too;) I'm a mix race of Spanish, Chinese, Korean, and Spain.... and i speak fluent Korean, Mandarin, Cantonese, Spanish, and English of course... I'm a very sweet, fun, loving person who always put everybody else first before myself ^.^ Advice please!!! And not stupid answers or racist please:(
Singles & Dating - 1 Answers
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You should check & make sure whether he already had a girlfriend or not.Because,(I'm not racist,-60% of my friends are chinese) but i think it is normal for chinese guys to date more than 1 girls at the same time.most of my chinese friends do.to them,the will have one real girlfriend that they will want to marry but they will consider other girlfriends as spare-part just for fun & happy hour.This just my view,i'm not racist..btw i also mix>Malay+Arab+chinese+jew
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Tuesday, November 1, 2011
what is jessica's clinical summary
what is jessica's clinical summary?
Clinical Summary C N A Name: Jessica Hickingbottom Weeks of October 8-24, 2007 Clinical Assignment Area Brookhaven Nursing Home 1.What type of surrounding do most patients have in their rooms? Does it have anything to do with any of the disorders? List specific examples. (10 points) When I first walked into Brookhaven Nursing Home I felt very warm and welcome, but upon arriving in the first patients’ room I felt a sense of loneliness and despair. This man had no photos and no belongings, just machines all around him, including an oxygen machine by which his every breath depended on. I had a fear that every other resident was just the same. By the time my shift was over I had a totally different view. The second resident that I met was so happy to see me she just kept talking and talking. All around her room there were so many pictures. She was a diehard Elvis Presley fan and her room had every bit to show of it. On her night stand she had a framed picture of her and an Elvis impersonator signed by the man himself. She is a very lively lady and all she needed from me was a helping hand in the morning to get out of bed so she could grab her walker, which sat right next to the edge of her chair, just so she could move on with her day. Every time I walked into a residents room the first thing I would do was look around and see all of their things. One resident even had her very own motorized scooter ;I had been so used to pushing around wheelchairs that it was nice to see someone do it on there own. I noticed that most of the residents had a water jug in there room that was located on their bedside table. Some residents were not allowed to have water, I knew this because some of them had signs posted above their beds warning the CNA’s of certain things. Some signs would tell you not to give the resident water or to be gentle when lifting certain parts of their bodies, while other signs warned us where to put the laundry because their family does it for them. Other miscellaneous items such as night creams, extra pillows, special foot wraps, arm bandages, and denture cups led me to the obvious conclusion s of their needs. I really enjoyed rooms that were filled with things that represented where the resident had been or where they were from. One man had a wall filled with postcards and letters from pen pals of extraordinary trips he had taken in the past and friends that he had met along the way. Another resident that I had come across was originally from china. In her room she had sweet pictures of her grandchildren surrounded by paper fans and ancient Chinese quotes. Many of the residents had equipment in their rooms like walkers, wheelchairs, and lifts that aided them with their disabilities, but the residents that looked past that and decorated their rooms with pictures and memories of their younger years were the one’s I really enjoyed spending time with. 2.Name/identify (trade and generic) two drugs you observed being given. what method was used to give the drug? (Oral, IV, IV Push, etc.) What is the classification of the drug? Why was it given to the patient? (pain, antibiotic,etc) How often is the drug given? (10 points) Trade nameGeneric NameMethod UsedClassificationWhy it was given?How often it was given? Lantus Insulin GlarginIMInsulinDiabetes Every four hours GlucagonGlucagonIMInsulinSevere hypoglycemiaFour times every shift 3.Name as well as describe one procedure you preformed this week. (10 points) This week seemed to be a great time for me to give showers. I was just cleaning bodies from one patient to the next. By the time I had done my third shower I felt like it was the easiest task on hand. Showers started to change for me when I gained a new resident from moving to hall 300. To me it was a typical day, wake the resident, put them in the chair and roll them down to the shower room, all was fine until we started the actual shower. I uncovered the resident, started the shower, checking the temperature while the resident washed her face. I sprayed the water all around her body then I drenched the washcloth in soap and starting washing through the steps. During a normal routine cleansing of the perennial area the certain resident I was working on had a bowel movement and it took me by surprise. In the back of my mind I knew that this very thing could have happened at any time but I suppose I just didn’t expect it. The resident realized what she had done and knowing that she didn’t have any more control over what had happened than I did, I reassured her that everything was just fine. I continued on with perennial care and finished the shower. I knew that my resident was embarrassed and I felt bad about what had happened. I picked up the specimen with a used washcloth as the CNA had instructed to placing it at the bottom of the shower chair making it easier to dispose of. While back in the residents’ room, I gathered her clean clothes and a diaper. I dried off the rest of her body, particularly the hard to reach areas, armpits, peri, and underneath the breast. I started to apply her deodorant when I noticed something on the floor. She had accidently had another bowel movement when I had be drying her off. Just as before I grabbed another washcloth and covered the specimen placing it at the bottom of the chair. I wasn’t grossed out about what she was doing; it was all out of her control. I just wanted to let her know that everything was going to be ok since she was feeling so bad about it. It is part of my job to do these things, but more importantly my job is to comfort the residents and make them feel as positive as they should. 4.What affected you the most in your clinical area this week? (10 points) While working at the nursing home I really started to see how the residents feel. Most people avoid going to nursing homes because they dislike the smell or they think it is just a sad place to be, but all of this is not necessarily truthful. When I was working and connecting with the residents, listening to what they had to say it really affected me. So many people missed their families, which is what it all seemed to be about. Almost every conversation I had was about someone’s grandchild or a family Christmas photo that was on their nightstand. The resident’s felt that they were put in a home waiting to die while the one’s they loved went on. It made me sad when residents would say things like, “When I get better and I get out of this place, I’m going to go visit my sister in Colorado, or my grandkids in California.†I know as well as they do that they won’t be going, but somehow I believe when they tell themselves things like that it makes them feel better. Everyone needs a reason to live you can’t just sit around waiting to die. Some residents would take their feeling s out in anger, yelling at the CNA’s or refusing to eat .While others took it out in sorrow crying their eyes out at every memory of a passed loved one. While on hall 200 I met an amazing lady who was so happy and giggly everyday I worked with her. She would always tell my CNA of the dreams she had the previous night about her husband, and they would always be so sweet and lovely. I felt so sorry that her husband had passed ,but she is one the nicest people I’ve ever met, and when she spoke of her dreams she always had a smile on her face, almost as if her husband were sitting right next to her. She has come to terms of what her life has given her and that made me respect her even more. Some residents made it difficult and sad to work with them but knowing one day that they will all return back to be with the one’s they love make my job so much easier, 5.Copy below from the patient's chart a Doctor's Order and interpret the order. (10 points) Flu vacc 0.5 ml IM x 1 dose Give the resident 0.5 milliliters of the Flu vaccine intra muscular only one dose Check temp. Q shift x 72̊ Check the residents temperature every shift for 72 hours (3 days) 6.Copy below from a patient's chart a Nurses Notes and interpret the order. (10 points) Cont. on flu fall-no delayed injury The resident is continuing to come off of the flu and there is no delayed injury Noted- denies any pain or discomfort The resident denies having any pain or discomfort 7.What do you feel that you need to improve on (skills, etc)? (10 points) When making beds at the nursing home I noticed that residents liked it done differently then the way we were taught. I got really nervous the first time my CNA had me make a residents bed , it was like I had forgotten all of the steps, I think I was just so nervous that my mind went blank. She had to show me all of the steps again like she was teaching me for the first time. I didn’t know that some of the residents liked their sheets folded in half because it makes the bed warmer and it took me a while to get used to that. Each resident seemed to prefer their beds made differently and it took me some time to memorize just the way they liked it. But the majority of the beds that I made were not like the skills we practiced in class. I just don’t feel like my bed making skills are up to par. I have been making so many beds by the residents request that I have forgotten how to make them the way I need to for my CNA test. I know that everything will be fine though, I have my procedural guidelines at home and a bed to practice on. As far as all of the other tasks go I think I have had enough practice and reading to excel. 8.Name two diets that different patients have. Describe. (10 points) Mechanical soft was one of the diets that I came across while working in the cafeteria. This diet consisted of foods that were all soft like eggs, juice, oatmeal, soft sausage, and gravy. A normal diet at the nursing home consisted of pancakes, syrup, eggs, cereal, oat meal, toast, or bacon. This is for residents who can eat easily or with the help of dentures. 9.Name some similar traits that most patients share. (10 points) When it was just the resident and I that were left to converse I felt like I got to know them more as a person than just a room number at Brookhaven Nursing Home. As I mentioned earlier many of the residents were similar in the fact that they were crazy in love with their families. Most of the time I wouldn’t talk much because I would ask a resident about a family member in a picture and they would go on and on .Some residents would just tell me before I even got a the chance to ask. What I love the most about the residents though is that they are all on a schedule, and many of them have the same schedule. Things like going to the bathroom in the mornings or watching a certain television program. This made it so much easier for me because I became accustom to their needs and we could both work together harmoniously, for instance while working on hall 200 there were two ladies who shared a room and also shared the same schedule. I loved seeing them because they made my day so much easier. They both woke up, went to the bathroom and ate at around the same time. They even had certain television shows that they would watch together, it’s almost like they were best friends roomed together. I also met some couples that were in the same room, and I thought that was one of the sweetest things. Most of them act quite similar because they are so used to being by each other side and that helped me out . 10. What is the most difficult thing that you had to do this week? (10 points) I would have to say that the most arduous task I performed this week was when I was assigned to feed a particular resident. Monday morning I was taking breakfast trays to the rooms as I usually do and occasionally I will have to feed residents their meal which is no problem. So when the CNA told me to feed this man I thought alright and headed back to his room. Upon entering I noticed that he was still sleeping so I woke him and raised his bed to a proper eating level. While setting up his tray I tried to start casual conversation with him and I noticed he wasn’t saying anything back so I spoke louder. After my attempts I assumed he was deaf so I began sign language and again no response. Knowing that not every deaf person knows signs I just began to point at breakfast items and show him what I was going to give to him. I took a spoonful of oatmeal and lead it toward his mouth, when all of a sudden he swats his hand at me yelling in Chinese and not wanting any part of what I was doing. It took me back a little because he hadn’t said a word and now he just wouldn’t stop. I pulled the spoon away and calmed him down. After he was settled I pointed at some more of the food items to see if he wanted them or not. Any time I tried to feed him something he would seal his lips and shake his head, after fifteen minutes he knew I wasn’t giving in and he finally ate his food. I just had a really hard time and I felt bad because, I didn’t know what he wanted or didn’t want. The communication barrier between us was so great that I felt lost. Even a persons body language is international and I still feel like he didn’t understand. I’m just so glad that he finally ate and everything worked out nicely.
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Clinical Summary C N A Name: Jessica Hickingbottom Weeks of October 8-24, 2007 Clinical Assignment Area Brookhaven Nursing Home 1.What type of surrounding do most patients have in their rooms? Does it have anything to do with any of the disorders? List specific examples. (10 points) When I first walked into Brookhaven Nursing Home I felt very warm and welcome, but upon arriving in the first patients’ room I felt a sense of loneliness and despair. This man had no photos and no belongings, just machines all around him, including an oxygen machine by which his every breath depended on. I had a fear that every other resident was just the same. By the time my shift was over I had a totally different view. The second resident that I met was so happy to see me she just kept talking and talking. All around her room there were so many pictures. She was a diehard Elvis Presley fan and her room had every bit to show of it. On her night stand she had a framed picture of her and an Elvis impersonator signed by the man himself. She is a very lively lady and all she needed from me was a helping hand in the morning to get out of bed so she could grab her walker, which sat right next to the edge of her chair, just so she could move on with her day. Every time I walked into a residents room the first thing I would do was look around and see all of their things. One resident even had her very own motorized scooter ;I had been so used to pushing around wheelchairs that it was nice to see someone do it on there own. I noticed that most of the residents had a water jug in there room that was located on their bedside table. Some residents were not allowed to have water, I knew this because some of them had signs posted above their beds warning the CNA’s of certain things. Some signs would tell you not to give the resident water or to be gentle when lifting certain parts of their bodies, while other signs warned us where to put the laundry because their family does it for them. Other miscellaneous items such as night creams, extra pillows, special foot wraps, arm bandages, and denture cups led me to the obvious conclusion s of their needs. I really enjoyed rooms that were filled with things that represented where the resident had been or where they were from. One man had a wall filled with postcards and letters from pen pals of extraordinary trips he had taken in the past and friends that he had met along the way. Another resident that I had come across was originally from china. In her room she had sweet pictures of her grandchildren surrounded by paper fans and ancient Chinese quotes. Many of the residents had equipment in their rooms like walkers, wheelchairs, and lifts that aided them with their disabilities, but the residents that looked past that and decorated their rooms with pictures and memories of their younger years were the one’s I really enjoyed spending time with. 2.Name/identify (trade and generic) two drugs you observed being given. what method was used to give the drug? (Oral, IV, IV Push, etc.) What is the classification of the drug? Why was it given to the patient? (pain, antibiotic,etc) How often is the drug given? (10 points) Trade nameGeneric NameMethod UsedClassificationWhy it was given?How often it was given? Lantus Insulin GlarginIMInsulinDiabetes Every four hours GlucagonGlucagonIMInsulinSevere hypoglycemiaFour times every shift 3.Name as well as describe one procedure you preformed this week. (10 points) This week seemed to be a great time for me to give showers. I was just cleaning bodies from one patient to the next. By the time I had done my third shower I felt like it was the easiest task on hand. Showers started to change for me when I gained a new resident from moving to hall 300. To me it was a typical day, wake the resident, put them in the chair and roll them down to the shower room, all was fine until we started the actual shower. I uncovered the resident, started the shower, checking the temperature while the resident washed her face. I sprayed the water all around her body then I drenched the washcloth in soap and starting washing through the steps. During a normal routine cleansing of the perennial area the certain resident I was working on had a bowel movement and it took me by surprise. In the back of my mind I knew that this very thing could have happened at any time but I suppose I just didn’t expect it. The resident realized what she had done and knowing that she didn’t have any more control over what had happened than I did, I reassured her that everything was just fine. I continued on with perennial care and finished the shower. I knew that my resident was embarrassed and I felt bad about what had happened. I picked up the specimen with a used washcloth as the CNA had instructed to placing it at the bottom of the shower chair making it easier to dispose of. While back in the residents’ room, I gathered her clean clothes and a diaper. I dried off the rest of her body, particularly the hard to reach areas, armpits, peri, and underneath the breast. I started to apply her deodorant when I noticed something on the floor. She had accidently had another bowel movement when I had be drying her off. Just as before I grabbed another washcloth and covered the specimen placing it at the bottom of the chair. I wasn’t grossed out about what she was doing; it was all out of her control. I just wanted to let her know that everything was going to be ok since she was feeling so bad about it. It is part of my job to do these things, but more importantly my job is to comfort the residents and make them feel as positive as they should. 4.What affected you the most in your clinical area this week? (10 points) While working at the nursing home I really started to see how the residents feel. Most people avoid going to nursing homes because they dislike the smell or they think it is just a sad place to be, but all of this is not necessarily truthful. When I was working and connecting with the residents, listening to what they had to say it really affected me. So many people missed their families, which is what it all seemed to be about. Almost every conversation I had was about someone’s grandchild or a family Christmas photo that was on their nightstand. The resident’s felt that they were put in a home waiting to die while the one’s they loved went on. It made me sad when residents would say things like, “When I get better and I get out of this place, I’m going to go visit my sister in Colorado, or my grandkids in California.†I know as well as they do that they won’t be going, but somehow I believe when they tell themselves things like that it makes them feel better. Everyone needs a reason to live you can’t just sit around waiting to die. Some residents would take their feeling s out in anger, yelling at the CNA’s or refusing to eat .While others took it out in sorrow crying their eyes out at every memory of a passed loved one. While on hall 200 I met an amazing lady who was so happy and giggly everyday I worked with her. She would always tell my CNA of the dreams she had the previous night about her husband, and they would always be so sweet and lovely. I felt so sorry that her husband had passed ,but she is one the nicest people I’ve ever met, and when she spoke of her dreams she always had a smile on her face, almost as if her husband were sitting right next to her. She has come to terms of what her life has given her and that made me respect her even more. Some residents made it difficult and sad to work with them but knowing one day that they will all return back to be with the one’s they love make my job so much easier, 5.Copy below from the patient's chart a Doctor's Order and interpret the order. (10 points) Flu vacc 0.5 ml IM x 1 dose Give the resident 0.5 milliliters of the Flu vaccine intra muscular only one dose Check temp. Q shift x 72̊ Check the residents temperature every shift for 72 hours (3 days) 6.Copy below from a patient's chart a Nurses Notes and interpret the order. (10 points) Cont. on flu fall-no delayed injury The resident is continuing to come off of the flu and there is no delayed injury Noted- denies any pain or discomfort The resident denies having any pain or discomfort 7.What do you feel that you need to improve on (skills, etc)? (10 points) When making beds at the nursing home I noticed that residents liked it done differently then the way we were taught. I got really nervous the first time my CNA had me make a residents bed , it was like I had forgotten all of the steps, I think I was just so nervous that my mind went blank. She had to show me all of the steps again like she was teaching me for the first time. I didn’t know that some of the residents liked their sheets folded in half because it makes the bed warmer and it took me a while to get used to that. Each resident seemed to prefer their beds made differently and it took me some time to memorize just the way they liked it. But the majority of the beds that I made were not like the skills we practiced in class. I just don’t feel like my bed making skills are up to par. I have been making so many beds by the residents request that I have forgotten how to make them the way I need to for my CNA test. I know that everything will be fine though, I have my procedural guidelines at home and a bed to practice on. As far as all of the other tasks go I think I have had enough practice and reading to excel. 8.Name two diets that different patients have. Describe. (10 points) Mechanical soft was one of the diets that I came across while working in the cafeteria. This diet consisted of foods that were all soft like eggs, juice, oatmeal, soft sausage, and gravy. A normal diet at the nursing home consisted of pancakes, syrup, eggs, cereal, oat meal, toast, or bacon. This is for residents who can eat easily or with the help of dentures. 9.Name some similar traits that most patients share. (10 points) When it was just the resident and I that were left to converse I felt like I got to know them more as a person than just a room number at Brookhaven Nursing Home. As I mentioned earlier many of the residents were similar in the fact that they were crazy in love with their families. Most of the time I wouldn’t talk much because I would ask a resident about a family member in a picture and they would go on and on .Some residents would just tell me before I even got a the chance to ask. What I love the most about the residents though is that they are all on a schedule, and many of them have the same schedule. Things like going to the bathroom in the mornings or watching a certain television program. This made it so much easier for me because I became accustom to their needs and we could both work together harmoniously, for instance while working on hall 200 there were two ladies who shared a room and also shared the same schedule. I loved seeing them because they made my day so much easier. They both woke up, went to the bathroom and ate at around the same time. They even had certain television shows that they would watch together, it’s almost like they were best friends roomed together. I also met some couples that were in the same room, and I thought that was one of the sweetest things. Most of them act quite similar because they are so used to being by each other side and that helped me out . 10. What is the most difficult thing that you had to do this week? (10 points) I would have to say that the most arduous task I performed this week was when I was assigned to feed a particular resident. Monday morning I was taking breakfast trays to the rooms as I usually do and occasionally I will have to feed residents their meal which is no problem. So when the CNA told me to feed this man I thought alright and headed back to his room. Upon entering I noticed that he was still sleeping so I woke him and raised his bed to a proper eating level. While setting up his tray I tried to start casual conversation with him and I noticed he wasn’t saying anything back so I spoke louder. After my attempts I assumed he was deaf so I began sign language and again no response. Knowing that not every deaf person knows signs I just began to point at breakfast items and show him what I was going to give to him. I took a spoonful of oatmeal and lead it toward his mouth, when all of a sudden he swats his hand at me yelling in Chinese and not wanting any part of what I was doing. It took me back a little because he hadn’t said a word and now he just wouldn’t stop. I pulled the spoon away and calmed him down. After he was settled I pointed at some more of the food items to see if he wanted them or not. Any time I tried to feed him something he would seal his lips and shake his head, after fifteen minutes he knew I wasn’t giving in and he finally ate his food. I just had a really hard time and I felt bad because, I didn’t know what he wanted or didn’t want. The communication barrier between us was so great that I felt lost. Even a persons body language is international and I still feel like he didn’t understand. I’m just so glad that he finally ate and everything worked out nicely.
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