adults, please answer !?
Well. Ok. So im a senior in high school, and its obviously march now. I am going to the University of Southern Indiana next fall for college. Its approx. 4 hours from home, and I guess you could say im getting cold feet. I decided a few months ago I wanted to major in nursing, but honestly, now im not so sure. Maybe its just the fact of choosing my future is what scares me the most. I love medical. and I am super outgoing and love being around people. I just want advice. I dont even really know what im looking for exactly. just... some guidance ? I have so many dreams of studying in foreign countries like japan or china. and i want to do something big with my life. can i go into the peace corps after i get out of college with a nursing degree ? where could i go ? i just want to feel the drive for whats coming i guess. what can i do ? please.
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I think you should join the US navy and apply for a medical job. You'll get to travel alot and do medical stuff. Check out the website, you'll see what I mean. www.navy.com
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Peace core is what you do AFTER you've arrived. Save that for 40. Right now you MUST continue your education. I have the hind sight of no college. Now a 4 year degree is even in jeopardy of becoming "sub-standard" in the job market. A masters is the new undergrad. You won't even be in the job stack of interviews if you don't have a masters by the time you get into the market. All great people were in or had graduated college. I place emphasis on this because if you stop, you won't ever go back, life will take over and you will have responsibilities (kids) that will take you away from school. Get it done now before you end up quitting and never go back. Mark Zuckerberg who is a billionaire thanks to facebook was AT HARVARD when this happened. not fooling around at home. Medicine is a great field to get into but it's extremely challenging to make it through the courses. They have a high drop out rate. If you want something solid and become big in life, get into chemistry. It's not impossible. There is a high demand in the field because theirs such a shortage of chemists. You are good for a minimum of $200K out of the doors of your school. You can choose to do high profile research and still get into medicine like cancer research or virus research. I highly suggest that. If you want to become an RN, you can do that much more easily than a lot of other medical tracks. I have a father who's a doctor and he's doing very well and went to school for 8 years. I am in I.T. and I do okay but struggle and wish I had a degree.
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Your hesitations are perfectly natural. Not knowing you, it is hard to be confident about recommendations but I'd be inclined to say go to that university, keep the nursing major as your "for-now" goal but be open to changing your plan as you become more familiar with other options. Make sure you find ways of socializing with overseas students. They'll appreciate your knowledge of the region and - who knows? - you might make some good contacts for overseas working. Also consider taking courses in Chinese or Japanese which will give you an advantage should you decide to do a study abroad - I see that your university currently has one such program with Japan (though it may be affected in the short term by the awful events unfolding there right now). Relax, enjoy your youth. I envy you.
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I think the idea of leaving your comfort zone for something new and exciting is scaring you. Remember your dreams and how much you want to explore and help the world :) I was like you, I'm a freshmen in my 2nd year of college now. I wanted to leave my home state and go to a college in SC and major in English. Unfortunately I wasn't able and stayed in my state and am at a state school and not even on campus. I feel so disconnected from my school and college education most days, all because I feel liike I'm not in the right place. Don't let yourself feel like you're not where you should be. There are so many places you can go :) Nursing is an excellent career choice and if you have passion for it, do it! I'm not giving up on English, I'm just going to have to find another place to go for the time being until I can find a place to excell.
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It is scary to choose a career when you are unsure about what you want to do with your life, but it is less scary when you realize that it is relatively easy to change your major during the first year or two of college, and that changing your major after that simply means that you will be in college a little longer. Have you tried shadowing a nurse so that you see what type of work nurses do? Have you considered becoming a physician assistant or other type of health professional? Talk to some people who work in health care. Find out what they like and don't like about their jobs. If possible, observe them while they are working. USI has a number of options for studying abroad, including programs in China and Japan (see link below). It may be hard to coordinate studying abroad with a nursing curriculum without taking more than four years to graduate unless you study abroad during the summer. If serving in the military is an option for you, the army may pay for your nursing education in return for your service as a nurse. See second link. Ask someone in ROTC at USI for more details. If you are interested in nursing and the Peace Corps, you may want to check into the MSN program offered by George Mason University (see third link). Also, the Peace Corps. hires physicians, NPs, and PAs to take care of the health needs of Peace Corps volunteers. Much of the Peace Corps efforts in health are related to public health. You may also want to consider earning an MPH instead of or as well as an MSN. Another possibility would be to work with a medical mission organization, either secular or religious. One more thing to consider. As far as I know, USI does not currently have a chapter of Global Brigades (see last link). Perhaps you could start one. There is already a chapter at Indiana University Bloomington.
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Sunday, August 7, 2011
Monday, August 1, 2011
Are Filipinos really considered in US as Pacific Islanders and not Asians
Are Filipinos really considered in US as Pacific Islanders and not Asians?
Don’t be fooled at once by the title of the entry. The story behind that statement excludes us. Last year, a friend left the Philippines and went to the United States. In his German class, the students were international. The professor asked who the Asians were and one by one the Asian students introduced themselves. And so it went, the Chinese, the Koreans, the Vietnamese, the Singaporeans etc. all raised their hands. Finally the professor calls this Filipino and asks, Professor: Where are you from? Filipino: Philippines Professor: Oh, Filipinos are not Asians! They are Pacific Islanders! Because ASIANS ARE SMART… In the United States, it is already being taught in schools that Filipinos are not Asians—that we are Pacific Islanders. While there is a lot of reaction against it, I am surprised that many intelligent Filipinos abroad have accepted this without question. Pacific Islands are places like Samoa, Hawaii, Tahiti, Guam, Cook Islands, Mariana Islands—and their common denominator? Most of them do not possess their own national and political identities—they are islands under the jurisdiction and protection of more powerful countries like USA, France and New Zealand. Most of these Pacific Islands are still referred to as “indigenous natives.†They have very, very small populations and they have no global role or power. While they have their own unique culture and characteristics, they do not hail from any great civilization in the past. Hindi sila lumaban at tumayo para sa sarili nilang lahi. What is even sad, however, is that even Pacific Islanders do not like and do not accept Filipinos! One good example are Hawaiian tourists we met in China. When they learned that we were Filipinos, they disgustingly uttered , “You eat Balot!†and avoided us like a plague. The statement of this American guy, filled with racism obviously merits strong disapproval. In fact, our friend was so angry after having been humiliated in front of the class. The logical thing to say, is that the Philippines IS part of the ASEAN group of nations. We can also say that Japan is an island in the Pacific Ocean but is not considered a Pacific Island. But we should ask—why would no one dare to call the Japanese people Pacific Islanders? Why pick on the Philippines? Simple. Because Japan has produced cars and we have produced dried mangoes and pastillas. The Philippines has been so left behind by Asian countries that foreigners shake their heads and ask, “What happened to your country?†Let us not even compare the Philippines with the four Tiger economies, ‘cuz they’re just way way way too far ahead. What about Vietnam and Thailand? I read that for every one Filipino who has a Master’s Degree, Vietnam has 6, Thailand has 25 and Singapore has 200. But why bother to be educated when the national dream is to go abroad? We are scattered from Hongkong to Kazakhstan, from Italy to even North Korea. Thousands of our doctors are becoming nurses. Our teachers become caregivers. Our women become entertainers and prostitutes. Our young people only know one course and that is nursing. Why would foreigners respect us when we do not even respect ourselves? We are the country of Gucci Gangs—our elite own Picassos and they simply have no heart to alleviate and educate the masses, as F. Sionil Jose and Brian Gorrell—the pitiful Australian guy who was robbed by DJ Montano—sadly pointed out. I am reminded of Condoleezza Rice, the first black woman to become the United States Secretary of State. She was born in Alabama and suffered discrimination on account of her color. But she was taught from a young age by her father, that she had to be “twice as goodâ€and prove that she was deserving of advancement. Condoleezza Rice explains, “I was going to be so well prepared, and I was going to do all of these things that were revered in white society SO WELL, that I would be armored somehow from racism. I would be able to confront white society on its own terms.†(Washington Post, Lessons of Might and Right, How Segregation and an Indomitable Family Shaped National Security Adviser Condoleezza Rice, By Dale Russakoff, September 9, 2001) The only way to answer people, who insist that we are uncivilized tribes is not by shooting off our mouths. The only answer is to beat them by studying and working ten times harder than the rest—to beat them not just once or twice, but to do so consistently for the next 20,30, 40, 50 years. Unless we Filipinos are prepared to love our country, and sacrifice ourselves by doing the extra-mile, we really deserve to be called stupid. ~ Lipad-Lawin Source: http://www.thebrownraise.org
Other - Cultures & Groups - 8 Answers
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Most Filipinos I met are very nice peope (but not necessarily sharp/intelligent like the East Asians). Vietnamese in my opinion isn't that smart either. Koreans can be pretty dumb too. Once again, he can be classified as both I guess.
2 :
You want me to read all of that? Oh no- dear. I haven't got the time...
3 :
if the professor was asian, he wasnt a very smart asian
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too much generalizations/ stereotypes>>>>>>>>>>> >>>Simple. Because Japan has produced cars and we have produced dried mangoes and pastillas. The Philippines has been so left behind by Asian countries that foreigners shake their heads and ask, “What happened to your country?†Let us not even compare the Philippines with the four Tiger economies, ‘cuz they’re just way way way too far ahead. What about Vietnam and Thailand? I read that for every one Filipino who has a Master’s Degree, Vietnam has 6, Thailand has 25 and Singapore has 200. But why bother to be educated when the national dream is to go abroad? We are scattered from Hongkong to Kazakhstan, from Italy to even North Korea. Thousands of our doctors are becoming nurses. Our teachers become caregivers. Our women become entertainers and prostitutes. Our young people only know one course and that is nursing. Why would foreigners respect us when we do not even respect ourselves? We are the country of Gucci Gangs—our elite own Picassos and they simply have no heart to alleviate and educate the masses, as F. Sionil Jose and Brian Gorrell—the pitiful Australian guy who was robbed by DJ Montano—sadly pointed out.
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who cars really? people in this world are always trying to put a label on something
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What does it matter? The Philippines is in Asia, therefore if you're Filipino you are Asian. It's pretty simple. Being smart or not has nothing to do with anything.
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forgot to mention that Filipinos average the 2nd highest household income out of all asian groups in USA... 1st is Indians.
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OK, first of all, expecting Americans to know the least little thing about geography is expecting way too much of them. I'm married to an African, from Ghana. I have encountered hundreds of people who think that Africa is a country, not a continent; several who've asked me if I went on a "safari" when I went to Africa, and whether or not my husband and kids speak "African" (there are 45 major languages in Ghana alone, not even looking at the other 55 countries on the continent). Anyway, the point is, most Americans are going to have a blank "What are you talking about" look when you try to discuss the Philippines. My doctor is from the Philippines. And I've had previous doctors from there. They are good doctors, esp. the one I have now. MY confusion about the Philippines has to do with a sort-of-Asian look to the people, but Spanish sounding names. And Tagalog doesn't seem to be a language like Chinese and Japanese, since it's written with Latin (Roman) characters. So from that perspective, I can see it being considered as a "Pacific Island" country as opposed to being a part of Asian.
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Don’t be fooled at once by the title of the entry. The story behind that statement excludes us. Last year, a friend left the Philippines and went to the United States. In his German class, the students were international. The professor asked who the Asians were and one by one the Asian students introduced themselves. And so it went, the Chinese, the Koreans, the Vietnamese, the Singaporeans etc. all raised their hands. Finally the professor calls this Filipino and asks, Professor: Where are you from? Filipino: Philippines Professor: Oh, Filipinos are not Asians! They are Pacific Islanders! Because ASIANS ARE SMART… In the United States, it is already being taught in schools that Filipinos are not Asians—that we are Pacific Islanders. While there is a lot of reaction against it, I am surprised that many intelligent Filipinos abroad have accepted this without question. Pacific Islands are places like Samoa, Hawaii, Tahiti, Guam, Cook Islands, Mariana Islands—and their common denominator? Most of them do not possess their own national and political identities—they are islands under the jurisdiction and protection of more powerful countries like USA, France and New Zealand. Most of these Pacific Islands are still referred to as “indigenous natives.†They have very, very small populations and they have no global role or power. While they have their own unique culture and characteristics, they do not hail from any great civilization in the past. Hindi sila lumaban at tumayo para sa sarili nilang lahi. What is even sad, however, is that even Pacific Islanders do not like and do not accept Filipinos! One good example are Hawaiian tourists we met in China. When they learned that we were Filipinos, they disgustingly uttered , “You eat Balot!†and avoided us like a plague. The statement of this American guy, filled with racism obviously merits strong disapproval. In fact, our friend was so angry after having been humiliated in front of the class. The logical thing to say, is that the Philippines IS part of the ASEAN group of nations. We can also say that Japan is an island in the Pacific Ocean but is not considered a Pacific Island. But we should ask—why would no one dare to call the Japanese people Pacific Islanders? Why pick on the Philippines? Simple. Because Japan has produced cars and we have produced dried mangoes and pastillas. The Philippines has been so left behind by Asian countries that foreigners shake their heads and ask, “What happened to your country?†Let us not even compare the Philippines with the four Tiger economies, ‘cuz they’re just way way way too far ahead. What about Vietnam and Thailand? I read that for every one Filipino who has a Master’s Degree, Vietnam has 6, Thailand has 25 and Singapore has 200. But why bother to be educated when the national dream is to go abroad? We are scattered from Hongkong to Kazakhstan, from Italy to even North Korea. Thousands of our doctors are becoming nurses. Our teachers become caregivers. Our women become entertainers and prostitutes. Our young people only know one course and that is nursing. Why would foreigners respect us when we do not even respect ourselves? We are the country of Gucci Gangs—our elite own Picassos and they simply have no heart to alleviate and educate the masses, as F. Sionil Jose and Brian Gorrell—the pitiful Australian guy who was robbed by DJ Montano—sadly pointed out. I am reminded of Condoleezza Rice, the first black woman to become the United States Secretary of State. She was born in Alabama and suffered discrimination on account of her color. But she was taught from a young age by her father, that she had to be “twice as goodâ€and prove that she was deserving of advancement. Condoleezza Rice explains, “I was going to be so well prepared, and I was going to do all of these things that were revered in white society SO WELL, that I would be armored somehow from racism. I would be able to confront white society on its own terms.†(Washington Post, Lessons of Might and Right, How Segregation and an Indomitable Family Shaped National Security Adviser Condoleezza Rice, By Dale Russakoff, September 9, 2001) The only way to answer people, who insist that we are uncivilized tribes is not by shooting off our mouths. The only answer is to beat them by studying and working ten times harder than the rest—to beat them not just once or twice, but to do so consistently for the next 20,30, 40, 50 years. Unless we Filipinos are prepared to love our country, and sacrifice ourselves by doing the extra-mile, we really deserve to be called stupid. ~ Lipad-Lawin Source: http://www.thebrownraise.org
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1 :
Most Filipinos I met are very nice peope (but not necessarily sharp/intelligent like the East Asians). Vietnamese in my opinion isn't that smart either. Koreans can be pretty dumb too. Once again, he can be classified as both I guess.
2 :
You want me to read all of that? Oh no- dear. I haven't got the time...
3 :
if the professor was asian, he wasnt a very smart asian
4 :
too much generalizations/ stereotypes>>>>>>>>>>> >>>Simple. Because Japan has produced cars and we have produced dried mangoes and pastillas. The Philippines has been so left behind by Asian countries that foreigners shake their heads and ask, “What happened to your country?†Let us not even compare the Philippines with the four Tiger economies, ‘cuz they’re just way way way too far ahead. What about Vietnam and Thailand? I read that for every one Filipino who has a Master’s Degree, Vietnam has 6, Thailand has 25 and Singapore has 200. But why bother to be educated when the national dream is to go abroad? We are scattered from Hongkong to Kazakhstan, from Italy to even North Korea. Thousands of our doctors are becoming nurses. Our teachers become caregivers. Our women become entertainers and prostitutes. Our young people only know one course and that is nursing. Why would foreigners respect us when we do not even respect ourselves? We are the country of Gucci Gangs—our elite own Picassos and they simply have no heart to alleviate and educate the masses, as F. Sionil Jose and Brian Gorrell—the pitiful Australian guy who was robbed by DJ Montano—sadly pointed out.
5 :
who cars really? people in this world are always trying to put a label on something
6 :
What does it matter? The Philippines is in Asia, therefore if you're Filipino you are Asian. It's pretty simple. Being smart or not has nothing to do with anything.
7 :
forgot to mention that Filipinos average the 2nd highest household income out of all asian groups in USA... 1st is Indians.
8 :
OK, first of all, expecting Americans to know the least little thing about geography is expecting way too much of them. I'm married to an African, from Ghana. I have encountered hundreds of people who think that Africa is a country, not a continent; several who've asked me if I went on a "safari" when I went to Africa, and whether or not my husband and kids speak "African" (there are 45 major languages in Ghana alone, not even looking at the other 55 countries on the continent). Anyway, the point is, most Americans are going to have a blank "What are you talking about" look when you try to discuss the Philippines. My doctor is from the Philippines. And I've had previous doctors from there. They are good doctors, esp. the one I have now. MY confusion about the Philippines has to do with a sort-of-Asian look to the people, but Spanish sounding names. And Tagalog doesn't seem to be a language like Chinese and Japanese, since it's written with Latin (Roman) characters. So from that perspective, I can see it being considered as a "Pacific Island" country as opposed to being a part of Asian.
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Thursday, July 28, 2011
My mother had a dream about a house
My mother had a dream about a house?
The first dream she was in front of a house. Presumably hers, she lives in an apartment now, but a house nonetheless. My fiancee was in front of the house and said the red roses belong in the back of the house. When she protested, he told her "Life is a job". Second dream had my in-laws, my fiancee and myself in the dream. My fiancees brothers were climbing in through the windows. His sister was packing up dishes out of a china cabinet and kitchen. Then his two brothers were carrying out dressers. My mother was telling them nicely they didn't need to take everything, that its our house. My fiancee was helping move things out and my mother was standing over a glass case that had all kinds of pastries and sweet concoctions in it, but it was closed off in this case. Then my fiancees father (who passed away several years ago) walked up to my mother and put his hand on her shoulder. He whispered in her ear to tell my husband that what he thought he (his father) felt about him is wrong... that he had love for him. He had a tray of sweets and handed them to my mother and told her to give them to his wife. When my mother turned to call my fiancee to let him know his father was here, she didn't see him anymore. The Situation: My fiancee doesn't have the best relationship with his brothers/sister. He was the eldest child and treated the worst growing up by his father. His mother was into the church (J.W.) and his father was NOT. His dad passed away a couple of years ago and left money to his sister (apparently none went to the boys). The sister then stopped paying the rent at their apartment and moved her mother in with her. Then she put their mother into a nursing home and bought homes, cars and other luxuries with the "Will" money. One of the brother's is getting an attorney to see if the sister somehow finagled the family and is now abusing the money. The mother is in a hospice/nursing home and they are required to have food brought in from the outside... since the sister has the money she was supposed to be providing the food and she hasn't been... so the mother is just above starving. No one knows if she is executor of the estate but I'm sure the attorney will find out. Please advise on this dream and/or the situation if you have legal experience.
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that is a cool dream to me. That would be a good show like where someone is asleep and they do that stupid blur or make a cloud. and show it. Any wayz i am sorry i dont have legal experience.
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Your mother's first and second dreams are as if two chapters from the same book - very closely related. In the first, your mother reveals an insight into your fiance's own emotional and family issues and holds reservations about what that may mean in your marriage. She must be a perceptive and wise lady - but you must be guarded as to how the information is applied to avoid damage in the relationships between you, your fiance and your mother. It may be that your fiance is a bit reticent about any expressions of desires for the better things in life for you at this time. Surely enough, the second dream reveals why that could be - he is strapped and emotionally must be nearly tapped out. His remark in the dream is quite right - life is a job. Marriage all the more so; nice things like rose gardens don't just appear. But your mother is right as well - life is not all work - work is for survival first, but one hopes her children do well and find beauty and comfort in life. She seems to see the possibility of realizing a sweeter side of life for the two of you - but again, the second dream reveals why she may have concerns of whether he will find that opportunity and be a strong partner for you in this pursuit. The second dream does illuminate the situation quite well. Your fiance has shouldered a great burden in life already - and is not finding real relief yet. Being the eldest would have placed much responsibility on his shoulders - and for now it seems his father left him with few resources to cover needs. Was that the father's intent? Was there trouble between them in life? That is still murky - but your mother at least senses that something else is afoot - that his father would not have done so. It may take a good attorney to sort that out indeed - his sister has at least ignored her family by using her 'windfall' as she has and may be plainly seen to have been unfair and unloving. She has perhaps gone further by taking illegitimate advantage at terrible cost to the others. If it is not even known what power she ever had to seize these assets then your fiance is well behind in getting truth uncovered and on the table - a good attorney is needed - now. Regardless of his father's intent, your fiance has lived through the whole thing and had to cope with an awful burden. That can embitter one, even a good person - he could easily see his father as the villain when that may not have been the case at all. This remains to be found out in the legal and firm business sense, and beyond that in terms of his own personal relationship with his father and his continuing feelings about it. Your fiance may not have the a relationship with his siblings seen in your mother's dream, but that likely stems from what she sees as his sense of duty to them. She may sense that he would give all - in fact to the detriment of your marriage - in trying to give relief to their plight. That can be a real danger - again, even in a good person who would care about you. This is something you cannot afford to ignore - there is already much heavy baggage piled onto your marriage cart. It is hard to look at these things in a business way - love is in the middle - but you must be aware of the risks you face and the price that may come - financially and emotionally. His family's plight can tear his attention from your marriage if not managed carefully. Your mother seems to sense this risk and the need for his controlling it - even as she understands the reasons for his worries. But she has you in heart too - blood is thicker than water and she sees trouble as things now stand. After all, he's made a huge commitment to you - and the question is not whether he intends to keep it, but whether he can under this burden he is carrying. The bitterness comes to mind again - your mother's colofrul observation of the house and his negative response affirms that some negativity is creeping into the relationship. You may wish to peacefully accomodate - but at what cost? And it is not 'just the money and stuff' - but his emotional state: does he express bad feelings toward his deceased father in any way? Does he blame him for all that has fallen on him, or did they truly have a sour relationship in life? Has it left your fiance deeply bitter? That can be very hard to deal with in life. Right now you may be a sweet diversion, but if his internal bitterness is not dealt with, over time it will bleed into your own relationship. In her second dream, your mother does receive a 'message' that he needs to rethink how he feels about his father - and the father may be wrongly accused in this. She finds herself the keeper of sweetness - truth. In the dream your fiance's father 'finds' her to be a sympathetic and open-minded agent in this world with a big heart, so he reaches from beyond the veil to plead his case - he wants his son to understand and have a loving life, not a bitter one. Someh
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The first dream she was in front of a house. Presumably hers, she lives in an apartment now, but a house nonetheless. My fiancee was in front of the house and said the red roses belong in the back of the house. When she protested, he told her "Life is a job". Second dream had my in-laws, my fiancee and myself in the dream. My fiancees brothers were climbing in through the windows. His sister was packing up dishes out of a china cabinet and kitchen. Then his two brothers were carrying out dressers. My mother was telling them nicely they didn't need to take everything, that its our house. My fiancee was helping move things out and my mother was standing over a glass case that had all kinds of pastries and sweet concoctions in it, but it was closed off in this case. Then my fiancees father (who passed away several years ago) walked up to my mother and put his hand on her shoulder. He whispered in her ear to tell my husband that what he thought he (his father) felt about him is wrong... that he had love for him. He had a tray of sweets and handed them to my mother and told her to give them to his wife. When my mother turned to call my fiancee to let him know his father was here, she didn't see him anymore. The Situation: My fiancee doesn't have the best relationship with his brothers/sister. He was the eldest child and treated the worst growing up by his father. His mother was into the church (J.W.) and his father was NOT. His dad passed away a couple of years ago and left money to his sister (apparently none went to the boys). The sister then stopped paying the rent at their apartment and moved her mother in with her. Then she put their mother into a nursing home and bought homes, cars and other luxuries with the "Will" money. One of the brother's is getting an attorney to see if the sister somehow finagled the family and is now abusing the money. The mother is in a hospice/nursing home and they are required to have food brought in from the outside... since the sister has the money she was supposed to be providing the food and she hasn't been... so the mother is just above starving. No one knows if she is executor of the estate but I'm sure the attorney will find out. Please advise on this dream and/or the situation if you have legal experience.
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that is a cool dream to me. That would be a good show like where someone is asleep and they do that stupid blur or make a cloud. and show it. Any wayz i am sorry i dont have legal experience.
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Your mother's first and second dreams are as if two chapters from the same book - very closely related. In the first, your mother reveals an insight into your fiance's own emotional and family issues and holds reservations about what that may mean in your marriage. She must be a perceptive and wise lady - but you must be guarded as to how the information is applied to avoid damage in the relationships between you, your fiance and your mother. It may be that your fiance is a bit reticent about any expressions of desires for the better things in life for you at this time. Surely enough, the second dream reveals why that could be - he is strapped and emotionally must be nearly tapped out. His remark in the dream is quite right - life is a job. Marriage all the more so; nice things like rose gardens don't just appear. But your mother is right as well - life is not all work - work is for survival first, but one hopes her children do well and find beauty and comfort in life. She seems to see the possibility of realizing a sweeter side of life for the two of you - but again, the second dream reveals why she may have concerns of whether he will find that opportunity and be a strong partner for you in this pursuit. The second dream does illuminate the situation quite well. Your fiance has shouldered a great burden in life already - and is not finding real relief yet. Being the eldest would have placed much responsibility on his shoulders - and for now it seems his father left him with few resources to cover needs. Was that the father's intent? Was there trouble between them in life? That is still murky - but your mother at least senses that something else is afoot - that his father would not have done so. It may take a good attorney to sort that out indeed - his sister has at least ignored her family by using her 'windfall' as she has and may be plainly seen to have been unfair and unloving. She has perhaps gone further by taking illegitimate advantage at terrible cost to the others. If it is not even known what power she ever had to seize these assets then your fiance is well behind in getting truth uncovered and on the table - a good attorney is needed - now. Regardless of his father's intent, your fiance has lived through the whole thing and had to cope with an awful burden. That can embitter one, even a good person - he could easily see his father as the villain when that may not have been the case at all. This remains to be found out in the legal and firm business sense, and beyond that in terms of his own personal relationship with his father and his continuing feelings about it. Your fiance may not have the a relationship with his siblings seen in your mother's dream, but that likely stems from what she sees as his sense of duty to them. She may sense that he would give all - in fact to the detriment of your marriage - in trying to give relief to their plight. That can be a real danger - again, even in a good person who would care about you. This is something you cannot afford to ignore - there is already much heavy baggage piled onto your marriage cart. It is hard to look at these things in a business way - love is in the middle - but you must be aware of the risks you face and the price that may come - financially and emotionally. His family's plight can tear his attention from your marriage if not managed carefully. Your mother seems to sense this risk and the need for his controlling it - even as she understands the reasons for his worries. But she has you in heart too - blood is thicker than water and she sees trouble as things now stand. After all, he's made a huge commitment to you - and the question is not whether he intends to keep it, but whether he can under this burden he is carrying. The bitterness comes to mind again - your mother's colofrul observation of the house and his negative response affirms that some negativity is creeping into the relationship. You may wish to peacefully accomodate - but at what cost? And it is not 'just the money and stuff' - but his emotional state: does he express bad feelings toward his deceased father in any way? Does he blame him for all that has fallen on him, or did they truly have a sour relationship in life? Has it left your fiance deeply bitter? That can be very hard to deal with in life. Right now you may be a sweet diversion, but if his internal bitterness is not dealt with, over time it will bleed into your own relationship. In her second dream, your mother does receive a 'message' that he needs to rethink how he feels about his father - and the father may be wrongly accused in this. She finds herself the keeper of sweetness - truth. In the dream your fiance's father 'finds' her to be a sympathetic and open-minded agent in this world with a big heart, so he reaches from beyond the veil to plead his case - he wants his son to understand and have a loving life, not a bitter one. Someh
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